Question: “You gave a how to on anal sex, how bout one on oral sex?”

I recently received an email asking about oral sex. I’ve decided to answer it here. The sender was asking about oral sex performed on a guy, so I’ll be focusing this post on fellatio (oral sex on men). I’ll detail other forms of oral sex in later posts.

Oral sex (fellatio) is rather easy to do. Just use your mouth, tongue, and lips to stimulate a man’s penis. This can be done through kissing, licking, softly nibbling, or sucking. Biting could be done too, but most men don’t like having their penis bit.

Of course that really doesn’t explain how to do oral sex. So to better explain it and help both the receiver and giver enjoy it more, here are some tips and ideas for you if you are receiving or giving.

Tips if You are Receiving

Being Clean

Before you receive oral sex, you should clean your genital area. This is easiest done while taking a shower. Cleaning yourself will remove any unpleasant smells that could be present, which would be a turn off for your partner. Who wants to put a smelly penis into his or her mouth?

Flavor of Semen

What you eat can affect how your semen tastes, and if you are willing to make oral sex as enjoyable for your partner as possible, you should eat things that make your semen taste better. Besides, if your partner likes the way you taste, he or she is more likely to do it again.

Improving the Flavor of Semen

Below is a list of foods and other things that should improve the taste of your semen.

-Acidic fruits can cause a pleasant, sugary flavor. This includes melons and pineapple.
-Celery can sometimes reduce semen’s bitterness.
-Cinnamon can sometimes mask bad semen flavors.
-Drinking a lot of water daily is important, because it flushes toxins out of the body.
-High-quality and naturally fermented beers or sake can make semen taste sweeter.

Making Semen Taste Worse

Below are foods and other things that can cause your semen to taste bad.

-Alkaline-based foods like fish and meats can cause a bitter or salty flavor.
-Asparagus can make semen taste awful.
-Chemically processed liquors can cause an extremely acidic flavor.
-Onions and garlic can sometimes carry their flavor to semen.
-Smoking heavily can give semen a bitter taste or just a bad flavor.
-Too much dairy can give semen a foul flavor.
-Too much coffee can give semen a bitter flavor.

Listening

When you are receiving oral sex you should listen to your partner. If he or she does not want you ejaculating into his or her mouth, you should try and make sure that doesn’t happen. If he or she does not want to be ejaculated on, you should try to avoid that too.

Telling

Telling your partner what you like is important. If you don’t speak up, your partner will not know. So letting him or her know what you like can make it more enjoyable for you.

Tips if You are Giving

Listening

Listening to your partner is one of the most important parts about oral sex. If he says he likes something, do it. If he says he doesn’t like something, then don’t do it.

Protection

Unless you can be sure your partner is free of any diseases, it is best to use a condom. Do not use a lubricated one. A flavored one can be used to enhance your enjoyment.

*Note* Do not put the condom on with your teeth. This could cause it to rip or tear and to later fail during the oral sex.

The Oral Sex

Now it’s time for the actual fun to begin. Here are some steps and tips to follow. You don’t have to follow them, but they should give you a general idea of what to do. If you can think of other things to do, then do them, just make sure your partner enjoys them.

1. The first thing to do is make the penis erect. For some men this will happen before there has been any real physical contact. Other men will need some stimulation. Softly stroking, kissing, or licking the penis should be enough for you to make it erect.

*Note* If your partner’s penis is uncircumcised, you will need to pull back the foreskin. Using your saliva, moisten the area around the foreskin, then using your fingertips, gently pulls the hood down. You can keep it down at the base of the shaft or move it up and down along the shaft, but avoid tugging and yanking on it.

2. With the penis now erect, you could tease it with your lips or tongue or it could be brought in to your mouth. To begin, take a hold of its base and form an “O” shape with your mouth, covering your teeth with your lips. Then in a smooth motion, slide the penis as far in to your mouth as comfortable. Hold for a moment, then slide most of it out, and repeat. Continue an up and down motion, and use your tongue to tease the penis and keep it wet.

3. While his penis is in your mouth, you can also lock your lips around it. You could twirl your tongue around the tip of the penis, or tease its underside. You can also suck, but some men find that uncomfortable. So if you do suck, do it lightly, or make sure your partner enjoys it.

4. Keeping some eye contact with your partner while you are performing can make the oral sex seem more intimate.

5. Making sounds of pleasure while his penis is in your mouth can excite him further or at the least shows you are enjoying yourself. He should like that.

6. Remember to use your hands. Most men like to have their shaft stroked while getting oral sex. You could also massage his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) with two fingers.

7. To increase your partner’s enjoyment, you could try inserting a well lubricated finger in to his anus. When your finger is inside completely, you should be able to massage his prostate gland. Doing so can cause more enjoyment, but if this is something you don’t want to do or something your partner would be against, don’t do it.

8. Eventually your partner will orgasm. You should have already told your partner if you want him ejaculating in your mouth or on you. If you wanted neither, hopefully he listens. If you didn’t mind having it done in your mouth, you can either spit or swallow. If you decide to spit, don’t feel ashamed or bad. Some people just don’t like swallowing semen.

9. If you did not want him ejaculating in to your mouth or on you, you and him could switch to vaginal sex (if you are female) or you could finish him off using your hand.

Deep Throating

Most people have heard this term, but did you know it comes from a porn movie called Deep Throat? To give good oral sex, you do not have to deep throat your partner. If you want to, the biggest obstacle you will be facing is the fact that there is a bend of almost 90 degrees at the back of your mouth leading down into your throat. So getting into a position that straightens it out is key.

You can try this by kneeling down in front of him while he is standing with your head tilted up towards him. Or you could lie down flat on a bed on your stomach with your head also tilted up. Basically, any position you find comfortable that could help reduce the 90 degree angle should work.

The next obstacle to deep throating is your gag relax. If you can relax the muscles in your throat, you should be able to avoid gagging. You will also need to keep them relaxed throughout the entire process or you could find yourself gagging. This may take some practice to perfect. Some people may not be able to remain relaxed the entire time though, while others have a strong gag relax that they will not be able to overcome.

If you find you’re unable to deep throat, do not feel bad. Deep throating is not crucial for a man to enjoy oral sex. Most of the nerves in the penis are concentrated in its head, not the shaft. The only real advantage to deep throating is the psychology thrill it can cause a man.

Final Thoughts

I hope this has helped you, and don’t let it be an end all guide. Oral sex is all about pleasuring your partner, so don’t worry about what is written above. You can follow it, but make sure you do things your partner enjoys. That is about the best advice anyone can give you in regards to oral sex or any sexual activity. Communication - when you both learn each other’s likes and dislikes, it will always be better.

I believe everyone has heard the term Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) before, and most know it is something you get from sexual contact. But have you heard the term Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) before? Do you know what it means?

An STI is an infection that can be spread from one to person another during sexual contact, which includes vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Sounds just like an STD, right? You’d almost be right.

Some medical experts in the area of public health are now using the term STI instead of STD. The reason for this is that the D in STD stands for disease, meaning there should be a clear medical problem. However, a lot of people will have mild to no symptoms when they are infected with an STD and will have no clear medical problem.

So by changing the Disease (D) to Infection (I), you get a term that more accurately reflects what happens. An infection that is spread through sexual contact that may or may not lead to symptoms and/or a medical problem. When the STI does cause symptoms and/or a medical problem, it can once again be called an STD.

STDs that can be called STIs include; chancroid, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, hepatitis B, herpes, genital warts (HPV), human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), syphilis, and trichomoniasis. Some of these can cause major medical problems, but as mentioned, until those problems occur, the term STI can be applied.

Preventing STIs can be accomplished in the same method as preventing STDs. Have sex with only one trusted partner who has tested negative for STIs or make sure to use protection like condoms. However, condoms can not prevent all STIs, since some like herpes and HPV can infect areas that a condom does not cover.

One final note on STIs. By the very definition of the term, you will not be able to know if someone has one. Someone who has one won’t even know, unless tested. Don’t assume someone is uninfected either. Up to 75% of sexual active adults will get an STI. So remember to use protection and have your sexual partner(s) and yourself tested.

Diamonds are a way of saying “I love you,” and most women love them, making them the perfect gift for this Valentine’s Day. But why stop there? Why not also say, “I want you to be safe and I care about your health,” by using protection?

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) like Herpes and HIV last forever like those sparkling rocks. Unlike those rocks, they are not loved by women. So this Valentine’s Day, protect your lover by buying condoms. You could go to the drug store, but if you buy them online at Undercover Condoms, you could save up to 50%.

Condoms may not be the most exciting gift, but they do show you care. Plus you can always pick up a few more items to spice up your love making.

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So this Valentine’s Day, besides saying, “I love you and care about your health,” add “I want our love making to be even more pleasurable for you.”

I’m sure she’d thank you, by returning the favor.